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Ask Dr Matt - 2013

  1254   -  I'm Having Reoccuring Dreams about Spiders: What is the Meaning of My Spider Dreams?
  1253   -  Cause and Cure for OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, according to Traditional Psychology
  1251   -  Popular Theory Contradicted by Empirical Evidence: Chemical Imbalance in the Brain Causes Depression
  1250   -  Overcoming and Fixing Additions: How to Change Obsessive Thinking and Compulsive Behavior

Ask Dr Matt - 2012

  1249   -  Head vs Heart: Power to Profound, Lasting Change and Futility of Goal Setting & Rule Following
  1248   -  Falling in Love is Mostly Intense Attraction: The Love that Falls is Not True Love: Standing is Better
  1247   -  Choosing and Committing to the Love that Stands and never Fails versus Falling In and Out of Love
  1246   -  Once and For All, where was President Barack Hussein Obama Really Born: Kenya or Hawaii?
  1245   -  Antidepressant Drugs Don't Cure the Real Cause of Depression: Getting at the Source of the Problem

  1244   -  Self Identity & Fulfillment: Beginning with the Right Questions, Climbing the Right Ladders in Life
  1243   -  Life On Center Stage Is Hell On Earth: Selfish, Ego-Centered Living Sucks Real Bad
  1242   -  Uncommitted Couples Living Together & having Casual Sex: A Recipe for Heartache & Trouble
  1241   -  Anti-Depression & Anti-Anxiety Drugs Mask and Muffle the Message that Life is Trying to Teach
  1240  -  Was I Just "Born This Way," destined to Be Bisexual or Gay? Do I Have a Choice to Be Another Way?

Ask Dr Matt - 2011

  1239  -  Why are People Violent? Nature or Nurture? Answers differ from Evolutionism to Creationism
  1238  -  How to Deal with a Frustrating Annoying Work Environment with Irritating Insulting Co-Workers
  1237  -  Complex Conundrum: The Learning Paradox, You can't Learn Something, unless You already Know It
  1236  -  Unconscious Behavior is Real whereas a supposed Subconscious Mind is Theoretical Speculation
  1235  -  Magic vs Working Hard: How Do I Overcome Low Self-Esteem Depression Anxiety & Panic Attacks?

  1234  -  Abused by Parents Who Use Physical Aggression, Threats, and Violence to Enforce Parental Authority
  1233  -  Key Source of Emotional Feelings of Euphoria & Happiness: Creating and Maintaining Lasting Joy
  1232  -  The Myth of Multi-Tasking: Living your Best Life means Being in the Moment with Wholeness of Heart
  1231   -  Teaching is NOT just Telling: Learning the Art of Influence & Facilitating Inductive Discovery
  1230  -  Boyfriend Moves In and our Sex Life goes Down the Drain: The Thrill is Gone

Ask Dr Matt - 2010

  1229  -  My Boyfriend is having Sexual Performance Problems: Should Sex Matter so Much to Me?
  1228  -  What is the Difference Between BiPolar Disorder and Border Line Personality Disorder?
  1227  -  Diagnosis versus Description: When Labeling and Pigeon-Holing is NOT helpful
  1226  -  Stuck in the Story: If you Run your Story long enough, your Story will end up Running You
  1225  -  Not Volunteering for Victimhood, Even though Victimized: For-Giving, For-Going, & For-Getting

  1224  -  Climbing a Ladder leaning against the Wrong Wall: Diagnosis and Treatment of O.C.D.
  1223  -  I Need some Coping Mechanisms to Help me Deal with my Frustrated, Ridiculously Unhappy Life.
  1222  -  Why Do I Exist? What is the Purpose of Life? How Can Anyone Know Answers to these Questions?
  1221  -  Do I have Constitutional Liberty NOT to Buy ObamaCare or Can the Federal Government Force Me?
  1220  -  Why Do I Feel Extreme Mood Swings for No Apparent Reason?

  1219  -  The Difference Between Sex and Love: Does Past Abuse prevent Today's Fulfillment?
  1218  -  Please Explain the Mental Disorder Behind Creepy Stalking Behavior
  1217  -  He Shows the Signs of Being in Love: But what if My ex-Boyfriend is Just Using Me for Sex?
  1216  -  Terrorist Mentality: General Mudslinging Slander & Firing "Flock Shots" at General Targets
  1215  -  Am I Masturbating Too Much or Should I Just Stop?

Ask Dr Matt - 2009

1214.  Dec 30  -   Do I have a Right to ask my Pregnant Girlfriend to have an Abortion?
1213.  Dec 26  -  The Possibility of Responding with Positive Emotions within Negative Moments
1212.  Dec 19 -   Inner Beauty versus the Superficial Looks of Barbi-doll Babes and Macho Men
1211.  Dec 13  -   Living Life from the Heart: The Richest Meaning of "Being in the Moment"
1210.  Dec 8   -   Love Does not Enable Others to Become More Selfish

1209.  Nov 28  -   What is Emotion? How can I Contain & Control Emotional Outbursts?
1208.  Nov 21  -   What is your Opinion about "Tapping Techniques" used to "Clear" Emotional Troubles?
1207.  Nov 19  -   After 25 Years, my Husband is Leaving Me and Filing for Divorce
1206.  Nov 15  -   The Source and Power to Overcome Selfish Narcissism
1205.  Nov 6   -   The Cure for Narcissism & the Key to a Joyful Life: Having A Humble Heart of Charity

1204.  Oct 31   -   Why Do I Feel Stuck in Sadness? Understanding Emotion as E-Motion = Energy in Motion
1203.  Oct 25  -   Difference Between Selfishness & Narcissism: Are Humans Selfish by Nature or Nurture?
1202.  Oct 17  -   I'm a Wreck: Losing Faith and Hope in Life. How to Escape My Hell Hole?
1201.  Oct 11  -    How To Leave My Best Friend because I've Fallen in Love with Someone Else?
1200.  Oct 3  -    The Weight of the World is on My Shoulders: I Feel Like I must Fix Everything

1199.  Sept 27  -   Just as Fish Swim, Cheaters Cheat: People who Cheat Now, will likely Cheat Later
1198.  Sept 21  -   Ask and Ye Shall Receive: Pushing Aside Doubt to Receive God's Promises
1197.  Sept 13   -   In love with a Lady that Lies: Can People Really Change?
1196.  Sept 7   -   I'm In Love with a Man who is Mean to Me. What Should I Do?
1195.  Sept 2   -   Why Doesn't God Answer My Prayers: Doesn't He Like me?

1194.  Aug 30  -   Bogged Down in the Thick of Thin Things, Part 4 Four
1193.  Aug 25   -   Entangled in the Thick of Thin Things, Part 3 Three
1192.  Aug 20 -   Trapped in the Thick of Thin Things, Part 2 Two
1191.  Aug 15  -   Stuck in the Thick of Thin Things, Part 1 One
1190.  Aug 9   -   After Cheating Twice, How Can I Trust My Husband? Wrong Question!

1189.  July 31   -   How do I Stop Worrying: the Way to Eliminate Worry and Fear
1188.  July 26  -   The Division of Response-Ability, and What it Means to Love Others
1187.  July 19  -   What does "Stripes" refer to in the Title of Your Book?
1186.  July 15  -   What Causes Narcissism? Can Extreme Selfishness Be Overcome?
1185.  July 10  -   Trapped in a Marriage with a Manipulative Woman: How to Get Out?

1184.  June 25  -   Remembering Yesterday's Troubles in a New Light: Stepping Stones vs. Stumbling Blocks
1183.  June 20  -   Friendships Flow, they Cannot Be Forced: Give Back what You Get
1182.  June 15  -   Why You Can't Directly "Think" Yourself into Being Happy!
1181.   June 9   -   He Doesn't Say "I Love You" anymore, but he Loves the Passion between Us
1180.  June 3  -   Can we ever give enough to those we love? Can we ever say "I Love You" too much?

1179.  May 27  -   Is Self-Love a Good or a Bad? Is Self-Love what God wants Me to Do?
1178.  May 23  -   My Boyfriend is Not Coming Around Anymore
1177.   May 13  -   I'm Married to a Two Time Cheater, What should I do?
1176.   May 7   -   If You Don't Like Change, You Don't Like Life: Change is Central to Life's Purpose
1175.   May 4   -   Homosexuality: Same-Sex Attraction is a Challenge similar to Opposite-Sex Enticements

1174.  Apr 22  -   You Possess the Final Veto Vote, but What if I'm Too Messed Up to Vote Right?
1173.  Apr 17   -   A Key for Your Best Response: The Difference between Facts and Truth
1172.  Apr 13   -   Giving Space and Respecting the Personal Prerogatives of Others
1171.   Apr 8    -   How to NOT be a Victim, even though You really have been Victimized
1170.  Apr 3   -   The Superior Alternative to Coping: Heart Remedy Brings a Brightness of Hope

1169.  Mar 24  -   A Perfect Answer to Abuse: Becoming Better than Before
1168.  Mar 18  -   Cheating: What Should I Do When I'm Left for Another Woman
1167.  Mar 11   -   Kicking Addictions: Basic Principles for Escaping the Gravity of Habit
1166.  Mar 7    -   Flowing with Mutual Attraction: The Principle of Giving Back What You Get
1165.  Mar 3   -   How the Past Lives in the Present by the Re-Membering You Do Today

1164.  Feb 29  -   Key to Motivation: the Push of Will Power vs. the Inspiration of Heart Power
1163.  Feb 22  -   What to Do When Attraction is One Sided: My Crush is Not Coming Back
1162.  Feb 16  -   Clearing Up Questions about Christianity: Faith, Good Works, Grace
1161.   Feb 10 -   Have Fears about Unfriendly Food: Can Faith overcome Contamination?
1160.  Feb 6   -   Self Deception: The Problem that You Don't "think" You have a Problem

1159.  Jan 30  -   Are There any Real Men on Earth that Want a Real Relationship — instead of just Sex
1158.  Jan 23  -   Responding Respectfully when even when Disrespected: Leaving A Legacy of Love
1157.  Jan 15   -   A Cure for the Blues: Depression Disappears Naturally by Being True to the Truth
1156.  Jan 12  -   Divorce and Christianity: What Did Jesus Christ teach about Divorce and Marriage?
1155.  Jan 5    -   Who has the Power to Veto Your Miserable Life? Responding to the Set Up called Life

Ask Dr Matt - 2008

1154.  Dec 29   -   Influencing Someone with an Addiction: How to Respond to an Alcoholic
1153.  Dec 21   -   Honoring a Dishonorable Vow: The Contradiction of Staying True to a Mistake
1152.  Dec 13   -   Letting Go of a Past Relationship: What to Do to Make the Hurt Go Away
1151.   Dec 9    -   Choosing to Be A Doormat: Self-Destructive Irony of Enabling Abuse
1150.  Dec 4   -   How to End a Vicious Cycle: Stopping a Self-Perpetuating Problem

1149.  Nov 30  -   To Master a Difficulty, we must Go Through It: Character is carved out of Affliction
1148.  Nov 22  -   Why Cheaters Cannot Do anything but Cheat: Scorpions will be Scorpions
1147.  Nov 16   -   Puzzled: What Should I Do When I'm Attracted to My Teacher?
1146.  Nov 10  -   Can You Care Too Much? Only when Caring is Conceived Incorrectly
1145.   Nov 3   -   What to Do when My Dream Woman is Not Behaving according to My Dream

1144.  Oct 29  -   Controlling Behavior: A Sure Way to Douse the Flames of Passion
1143.  Oct 24  -   The Fragile Unstable Fate of Falling in Love: Standing in Love is Superior
1142.  Oct 17   -   Why Worry is a Waste of Time and Doesn't Work: Be Proactive, Take Action!
1141.   Oct 8   -   Dream of Trying to Find a Lost Baby: Finding Inner Innocence a Key to Life's Meaning
1140.  Oct 1   -   After the Marriage, a Different Man Appeared: Never Really Knowing your Mate

1139.  Sept 27  -   Married, but Falling In Love with Another Man: The Endless Allure of Adultery
1138.  Sept 22  -   What to Do When Relationships are Filled with Conflict: Always Yelling and Fighting
1137.  Sept 14  -  An Alternative to Cause and Effect: the Behavior Realm operates via Constraint & Choice
1136.  Sept 6   -  Choosing Your Way into Depression: Turning It's-Not-Your-Fault Psychology on its Head.
1135.  Sept 2   -  Understanding the Emotional Self: Emotion is a Word to describe You-Being-Emotional

1134.   Aug 28  -  Understanding Anger: Do I Determine My Anger or is My Anger Determining Me?
1133.  Aug 23  -   E-motion IS Energy-In-Motion: Stopping Emotion is Like Stopping a Moving Train.
1132.  Aug 15  -   Faith & Works: Two Separate Words describing One Living Reality: Working-Faithfully
1131.  Aug 9   -   Freedom is a Word to describe You-Being-Free: "Freedom To" and "Freedom From"
1130.  Aug 3   -   Attention Deficit Disorder: You'd be Superman if You "had" A.D.D. 1000 Years Ago

1129.  July 26   -   The Difference between Self-Willed Perfectionism versus Being Perfected in Christ
1128.  July 24   -   Escaping Addiction: If You Chose Your Way In, You Can Choose Your Way Out     
1127.  July 16   -   Tell-Tale Signs that You are not Being True: All Your Troubles are in the JAR      
1126.  July 11   -   Refuting the "The Secret" DVD: Getting The Universe to Book an Appearance on Oprah
1125.  July 4    -   Factors that not only Lead to Attraction, but Make Relationships Stable

1124.  June 28   -   The Myth of Emotional Scars: Supposedly they Never Heal or Go Away — Wrong!
1123.  June 23   -   How to Know when You are Talking to Yourself, or If Satan is in Your Self-Talk     
1122.  June 14   -   Self-Mastery vs Mastery: Two Poems that contrast Head-Power vs Heart-Power      
1121.  June 8     -   Are You an Unwitting Propaganda Peddler, or An Email Forwarding Ideologue?
1120.  June 2   -   All Telephone Counseling is NOT Created Equal: Dr Matt's Counseling Actually Works

  1119  -  Forgiveness Correctly Understood: Explanation by C. Terry Warner from Bonds That Make Us Free
  1118  -  Principles of Government established by the Founding Fathers: Jefferson, Washington, and Franklin
  1117  -  Christmas Message: Escaping a World of "Sound and Fury" to Hear and Receive Words of Worth
  1116  -  Turbulent Waters: A Poem by Dr Matt: In Times of Trouble We See the Size of Our Character
  1115  -  As A Man Thinketh in His Heart, and Not His Head: The Correct Interpretation of a Bible Proverb

  1114  -  Conceptual Flaws from the book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking when Stakes are High
  1113  -  Why People Can't Control their Emotions: If You Ain't Got It In You, Ya Can't Blow It Out
  1112  -  If you Live near Utah County, you can Come to Dr Matt's Office for Counseling
  1111  -  Does the Commerce Clause Authorize Federal Government to Force Citizens to buy Health Insurance?
  1110 -  The Difference between Coaching, Consulting, and Therapy — Dr Matt's Kind of Counseling

  1109  -  Intent Defines the Act: Why Inward Motives & Emotions determine the Definition of an Act
  1108  -  Others can Be Offensive, but they cannot Cause You to Be Offended, that is Your Choice to Make
  1107  -  Original Quotes authored by Dr Matt Moody, Ph.D. from his book Changing Your Stripes
  1106  -  To Perceive Pure Knowledge, You must Be Pure: Certain Insights cannot be Captured Intellectually
  1105  -  Self Deception: With every Betrayal of Your Own Sense of Inner Truth comes Blindness

  1104   -  All Stress is Self-Made: The Difference between a Stimulus / Stressor and a Stress Response
  1103  -  Quotes from the Changing Your Stripes Manual: C. S. Lewis, Albert Einstein, Kahlil Gibran, Socrates
  1102  -  More CYS Manual Quotes: Leo Buscaglia, Abe Lincoln, Mark Twain, Shakespeare, Aristotle
  1101  -  Even More CYS Manual Quotes: Henry Ford, Martin Luther King Jr., Leo Tolstoy, Confucius
  1100 -  Why Social Psychology has a Superior Premise for Fixing Human Problems compared to Psychology

  1099  -  Fantastic Inspirational Quotes: Amazing Words of Wisdom from Intelligent and Wise Women & Men
  1098  -  What is the Difference between Falling in Love versus Standing in Love?
  1097  -  Affordable Fees Low Prices Competitive Costs for Dr Matt's Life Coaching
  1096  -  How To Tell If Someone is Lying with their Mouth or Emotion: Tell-Tale Signs of Deceit
  1095  -  Ask and Ye Shall Receive: How the Craze called "The Secret" has Twisted the Teachings of Jesus

Ask Dr Matt - 2007

  1094  -  Sorting Out the Facts and Truth from an Enormous Pile of Propaganda posted on the Internet
  1093  -  Superlative Parenting: Learning the Art of Influence Becoming a Shepherd NOT a Sheepherder
  1092  -  What is Truth? Truth is NOT Just a Property of Accurate Language and Correct Perception
  1091  -  I-ology! Old Hot Air in a New Balloon: Legitimizing Narcissism and Selfishness
  1090 -  Does Microwave Cooking in Plastic Containers & Wrap Leach Cancer-Causing Chemicals into Food?

  1089  -  Why the Bible Advises: Put Away all Bitterness, Wrath, Anger, Malice, and Filthy Communication
  1088  -  Common Discrimination: Seeds of the Terrorist Mentality — Obama Sends Back the Bust of Churchill
  1087  -  The Myth of Mental Illness: The Medical Model vs Social Deviant Model — Crazy AND Accountable
  1086  -  Ronald Reagan's Speech "A Time For Choosing" Makes Political Points Completely Applicable Today
  1085  -  COICA Combating Online Infringement & Counterfeits Act: a Bill to Stop Theft of Copyrighted Info

  1084  -  Dr Matt's Telephone Counseling is More Affordable & Effective than Other Mental Health Alternatives
  1083  -  Is God's Love Conditional or Unconditional? Does Divine Love Look Different Depending on Choices?
  1082  - Why is the RomneyCare Mandate Constitutional, if the ObamaCare Mandate is Unconstitutional?
  1081  -  The Basic Differences Between RomneyCare & ObamaCare: 10th Amendment & Federalism Explained
  1080 -  Michele Bachmann Thinks the Individual Healthcare Mandate is Unconstitutional at the State Level

  1079  -  Notes on Dr Matt's next book — Changing Your Stripes: Prejudice, Propaganda, and Perception
  1078  -  The Mormon Belief of Pre-Mortal Existence is a Bible Doctrine: Rebuttal to Robert W. Bowmann
  1077  -  Are Mitt Romney and Mormons "Christian," Do They Believe in Jesus Christ as the Only Savior?
  1076  -  Why Romneycare is a Problem of Perception & Prejudice, and Not a Constitutional Problem
  1075  -  Dr Matt provides Convenient Confidential Counseling for Performers and Rock Stars on the Road?

  1074  -  Jesus is Savior & Redeemer: Two Titles that express Different Blessings for the Saved vs. Redeemed?
  1073  -  Rick Santorum making Straw-Man Arguments and Demagoguing the Issue of RomneyCare